Brigitte: There's no trouble at all.
David: Good thing I'm not doing the interview alone.
Betty: So, let's get to it. First question is for Dave. How did you adapt to the new world?
David: It's all really strange. However, Brig is very understanding. There's no pressure at all so if I don't know anything, I can just simply ask. Her friends also know about my situation; hence, I don't really feel odd or stupid. It's just different.
Brigitte: I think if it's me, I'll have a hard time adapting. There's no reason to make fun about it. It's very normal.
Betty: That's nice. The next question is for Brig. You seem not to believe in love at first sight; how did you fall in love with Dave so fast then?
Brigitte: I do believe in love at first sight. I just never thought it would happen to me. On that note, the first time I saw Dave, he was lying in blood. The only thought crossing my mind was trying to save this man because he was still alive. There was no light struck or sound of thunder or a skip of heartbeat. Later on, I knew my friends were uncomfortable taking in Dave. He had no papers on him, making it hard for us to keep him in the clinic. But I didn't want to transfer him to a hospital. He was unconscious, for God's sake. Call it empathy, call it courage or stupidity, I thought it would be least troubled and best to take care of him temporarily. You know, a good deed at the time. I didn't feel much things toward him. I don't know how or when I fell in love with Dave or if I even fell in love at all. He woke up with his confused and longing green eyes. I just felt drawn to him after he first accused me of trying to kill him then apologized profusely. It seemed like he was just confused by everything but he was a nice guy deep down. And I hate misunderstandings due to communication; hence, I didn't allow him to walk away thinking the wrong thing. One thing led to another, and I opened up comfortably.
Betty: If you ever fell in love at all?
Brigitte: Falling in love sounds unfit. I just love him.
David: *squeezes Brigitte's hands* Falling in love sounds like you will have to fall out of love sometimes. Nobody likes to fall anywhere. I like to think that this is the best thing out-of-my-control ever happened to me.
Betty: Why didn't you want to get married?
Brigitte: First, we only know each other in a very short amount of time. Second, I only saw bad marriages in my life; I don't want to be another one. I think it's okay to wait a bit more.
David: What's the rush? I'm not going anywhere anyway.
Betty: Will you get married at some point? Does that bother you, Dave, that she said no?
Brigitte: At some point, maybe.
David: Yes, I was a bit hurt when she rejected my proposal. But I understand what she feels and thinks. I did leave her and I know her background. That doesn't change my feelings for me, however. Her opinion of marriage has nothing to do with her love for me or my love for her. If she wants to wait, well, do you think I have anything better to do? I'm not going anywhere away from her. I'll wait for however long she wants to.
Betty: Brig, what worries you? You don't feel Dave is the one for you?
Brigitte: He IS! I know! He is for me and I'm for him. But the marriage concept and the reality of it that I've been witnessing all my life scare me.
Betty: What concept?
Brigitte: It's....it's complicated....
David: Betty, let's change subject. I'm okay with it and Brig is okay with waiting. It's our personal matter; we don't have to explain all our little thoughts running through our mind to the whole world. Not because we don't want the readers to know; they know what's going on. It's hard to explain something that we don't even fully understand ourselves.
Betty: What's your usual day like?
Brigitte: Just ordinary like every other couple. We wake up, I go to work and David go to Kalas. We see each other at the end of the day.
Betty: That's it? Isn't it kind of boring?
David: *laughs* What do you want to do, Betty? Jump up the sky everyday or find an adventure everyday? That might be exhausting. Being with the right person is enough. I'm content and happy simply being with Brig. It doesn't matter what we do, it's who we're with and how we feel when we're with that person. So the usual day, for you, sounds boring but for us, is content. I wouldn't change a thing.
Betty: What is your biggest fear?
Brigitte: Being abandonned.
David: Losing Brig.
Betty: What is your dream?
Brigitte: Travel and enjoy the world with Dave.
David: Anything she wants, as long as I'm with her.
Betty: Dave, as a man, do you feel demasculinized when your everything depends on Brig? Like your dream, it's not solely about you, it's more about what Brig want.
Brigitte: Betty, what do you mean demasculinized? He's more of a man than anyone I've ever seen!
David: Betty, I'm sterile and I don't even feel demasculinized. Yes, when I was younger, I felt awful about it but I really think about it. It happened; there's nothing I can do about it; and it's neat when I have no desire to have children anyway. To answer your question, everyone has a slightly different idea of masculinity. After all, it's only a social construction but it's not a fact. Some men want to conquer the world, some men want to be super rich or powerful, I want Brig. It's about what an individual wants out of life. All I want is Brig. Being with her is already my perfect dream.
Betty: How do you feel when others call you pussy or wussy or clingy?
David: Do they want to live? *winks* If you have to worry about what everyone thinks, you don't have time or mind to think about yourself or what you want. So what if people call me names? What if I do what society wants me to? They won't feel happy and I certainly won't feel happy. And hey, I live without a care about others before, I won't start now. Except for Brig, the world doesn't mean a thing for me.
Brigitte: Maybe these people have never had the love that we have. Maybe they don't believe in it. Maybe true love isn't what they want. We're all different. We don't judge them and they have no right to judge us anyhow.
Betty: I believe all the women want to be like you, Brig. To find a man like Dave.
Brigitte: I used to be one of them. Wishing for my true one. I'm very grateful.
David: Maybe all the men want to find their true one too.
Betty: How do you know it's true love or love?
Brigitte: When everything feels so right, even in a bad time, when everyday I wake up and feel full of love and can't imagine anyone or any other kind of life, I think it's true love.
David: I think love and true love are similar but true love is deeper. Love is when you see the good things first. True love is when you see all the bad things and still think the other person is the best. I guess believe in your deepest intuition. When it feels right, you just know.
Betty: Any last words you want to say before the end of the interview?
Brigitte: Sometimes, take a chance. True love does exist. It might be terribly late or it might never come but the possibility is powerful enough. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Do what you want or dream to do, enjoy all there is and don't close yourself off from that possibility.
David: Know what you want, what important the most to you. When you see it, recognize it. When you have it, don't let it go.
Betty: Thank you you two. It's a pleasure.
Brigitte: Pleasure is all ours. Thank you for all your support.
David: We're very grateful. Thank you everyone for your questions and support.
Betty: Thank you everyone. Stay tuned for Richard's story. David and Brigitte surely will stop by again. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!